Sexual Blueprints and How They Deepen Sex

Oct 7

There are 5 sexual blueprints that are like maps to our desires, turn ons, what we long for and our shadows. They can evolve over time but we typically have a primary and secondary type that drives us sexually.

Knowing your own blueprint can feel like an Ah-Ha moment where you finally understand why you feel and get turned on in the environments and experiences that you do. It's a step closer to understanding the language of your body.

1) The Energetic

Energetics are turned on by anticipation, longing, craving, teasing and eye contact. They love foreplay and can literally feel everything. They are often intuitive lovers and can instinctually understand what you need or want.

Shadow: If a lover touches them too soon it can shut down their arousal - too fast too soon is a huge turn-off. They can be pulled out of the moment if there is a shift in energy.

2) Sensual

They are very turned on when all their senses are stimulated. They find pleasure and arousal in their surroundings, music, essential oils, flowers, romance, massage etc. They are able to open themselves up to deeply moving experiences.

Shadow: Sensual’s are prone to getting stuck in their head and can think themselves out of an orgasm. They can excessively worry about how they look or if what they are doing is right. It can be hard for them relax if the environment isn't totally right.

3) Sexual

This type is turned on by sex itself! They are very visual and very physical. Nudity, porn and direct genital touching turns them on. They are often playful when it comes to sex and can go from zero to a hundred in a heartbeat. Media is typically catered to this type of blueprint.

Shadow: Sexual types can become a little rigid in their approach and be very "goal" focused when it comes to orgasm. The are prone to impatience and can sometimes forget about the journey of sex in favour of the outcome.

4) Kinky

Kinky folk are turned on by taboo, naughtiness, the forbidden and the more daring aspects of sex. They can be one of the most creative blueprints and find deep self actualization and healing through sex.

Shadow: This type can struggle with shame and repressing their desires, sending them to the mines of their psyche. Learning how to own, communicate and practice their desires safely becomes the lesson of the kinky blueprint.

5) Shapeshifter

The shapeshifter is turned on by all of the above. They love diversity and can have a ravenous sexual appetite. Their desire knows no bounds - they are full, excitable, can f-ck all night and when fully accepting of their sexual hunger can become well versed in all the languages of the sexual blueprints

Shadow: They tend to shift into their lover's blueprint instead of owning their desires. They can become bored with routine sex and are often thought of as "too much" when it comes to their sexual appetite

We can often have different blueprints to our lovers so understanding how you work and how they work opens up channels of communication and understanding in the bedroom.

ie. one partner is sexual and the other is sensual. The sexual partner can go from zero to a hundred and be ready to go whereas the sensual partner needs build up, the right environment and foreplay. This can often create conflict where one partner doesn't feel ready yet while the other is impatient to get down. Knowing how each other works allows you to get turned on in the way that speaks to you.

Integrating the Shadow of Your Blueprint

Like everything in life, integrating the shadow side of our being is integral for healthy and full living.

If you've read through your blueprints and identified the shadow aspects that you struggle with, you can actively begin to merge them into your being. If that is through self acceptance, cultivating patience, coming out of your head or totally owning your desires - only you can know. Breathe when the feelings come up and know you can step into your fullness.

krystin ross