The Nuances of Desire
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It becomes a play on desire, polarity, presence, expression and intimacy.”
When looking at non-linear models of sexual responsiveness, we begin to see how much more is involved in wanting someone than a quick tussle between the sheets.
The most basic model starts with excitement - your heart begins to beat a little faster, your nipples harden, blood begins to flow and get you ready to receive your lover. Then the experience begins to plateau, we become flushed with sex and continue to build until we reach that sweet moment of bliss before coming back down to earth, sweaty and panting onto each others chest.
This is a very physical model, but sex can be much more visceral than that.
So we begin to look at desire and how it permeates the experience of our responsiveness. It is a pull, sometimes superficial and other times extremely felt and it’s in this longing that our deeper sexual responsiveness often stems from.
As we dive into the more subtle energy around sex and desire, intimacy starts to come into play. A deeper connectedness that brings you and your lover closer, joined in electricity and intensity that moves beyond the physical realm.
And we begin to recognize that an orgasm isn’t actually necessary for deep pleasure and satisfaction. Yes, it can be an incredible experience, but is one star in a constellation that makes up Orion.
Sex can be an enjoyable means to an end which for most people equates to an orgasm. A fun romp and release, perhaps void of desire that helps you distress, momentarily connect and expel sexual energy.
But deeply mind-blowing sex moves beyond this “means to an end” and encompasses the entirety of the experience before, during and after.
It becomes a play on desire, polarity, presence, expression and intimacy. The charge in the air and your body during sex is just as intense and moving as the finale, but it doesn't really end there either.
You will be filled by it; feel deeply connected and loved through it.
And you'll be hungry for more, because when you fuck with that kind of instinct and surrender, the places it takes you are far beyond a "means to an end" - it takes you where you can't go yourself.
