Expand Your Idea of Foreplay
Foreplay can be an art you devote yourself too. I wouldn’t even consider it as an appetizer to great sex, it is part of the whole that creates amazing sex.
When it’s neglected, you can probably still climax and come in a brief moment and spurt of pleasure, but it wont melt you into the bed or catapult you to a whole other dimension of euphoria.
“Foreplay” should be the the ground on which you build your sexual intimacy.
You can play with power, you can open the erogenous zones of the heart and mind, you can open the erotic sensation of the body and you don’t even need to be in the same room to start.
What if, instead of going through the motions of making out for a moment before kissing your lovers neck while you slowly make your way to their yoni or their penis, you began hours or even days before this?
Start with something like this…
What if you sent your partner a text with specific instructions to take a sensual bath, rub their skin with oil, turn the lights down low and be waiting for you naked, open, wet and pleasuring themselves on the bed when you walk through the door precisely at 6pm?
You could send lingerie to your woman’s workplace for her to open with a note that said, “come over only wearing this. I’ve been so hard thinking of you all week, I am going to take you over the table the second you walk through the door”
You can send your man a gorgeous photo that oozes sex and write to him all of the things you are dying to do to his cock later. That you’ve been daydreaming of being on your knees for him.
Stimulate the mind and you will start to build the the dopamine release not only in yourself but your lover too and this anticipatory build up to sex can be explosive.
Now what about opening up the erogenous zones of the body?
This comes with feeling out the texture of your rendezvous. Is it wildly passionate or softer and slower? Whatever energy you chose to bring be intentional about it, become it, feel it in your bones.
Use your eyes, hands, lips and tongue, they are all conduits of great energy. Touch, grab, caress, lick, bite, nibble, spank and claw. Let your focus expand and feel everywhere, while you lick your lovers nipples you can be clawing their back or running your hands through their hair. When you bite their neck you can be tracing their inseam and slowly teasing them to life.
When your women’s vagina is literally inviting you in, thats when you penetrate her. Attune yourself to her body, learn her queues and subtle movements that call for you to enter. Feel the moment by being present.
Don’t just wait for the verbal queue, feel out the physical one as well. Some women feel they take too long to warm up and will jump straight to penetration out of anxiety, feel if this is the case and know that rushing doesn’t equal great sex, attuning to your lover does.
Women usually take longer to warm up but it doesn’t have to be a routine of do this for her so you can enter for you and then the real session begins. Let the moment be about duality, a dance of both your pleasure, teasing, opening and loving until your partner is begging for you…
The energy you bring to sex before penetration is what’s going to enliven and deepen intercourse which can literally transport you to new places.
Become a master of the whole experience of sexuality then just the sex itself. It will open you.
