Sexual Polarity & Who Picks Up the Check

There is a moment on the very first date where we can learn a lot about each other. And that is when it comes time to pick up the bill.

Women are often turned off by the man who wants to split the bill OR picks it up but resents it or feels like he is owed something because he pays for it.

AND on the other side, men are well and truly turned off by the woman who expects him to pay and comes to a date with an entitled attitude. 

Both are low vibe, turn off energies that give us the “ick”

So, in this situation, what creates the highest amount of harmony and sexual attraction between two people? Because straight up .. in love and romance bills and money matter and affect way more than we would like to admit. 

A mans genuine DESIRE (keyword) to pick up the check shows a woman the following:

He embodies generosity and generosity reads as safety  

He is unconcerned with what he “should” be getting in return because it is not attached to expectations ( ++ safety)

He has a desire to provide (which will always get a woman wet) 

He is in a polarized masculine energy which is hot AF 

And a woman who does not come to him with expectation shows a man the following:

She is genuinely interested in building connection

She is not going to take advantage of his generosity 

She is genuinely grateful and appreciative of being cared for (this is key)

Men need to feel your appreciation and reciprocity. But often that reciprocity - if you desire a polarized relationship is not to split the bill or pick up the next check, it’s your devotional energy to love and the feeling of respect that ensues when a man desires to care for you. 

As with everything, bills are a dance and when the energy is open, honest and right between both people it effortlessly flows and creates attraction and harmony.

So, if you desire a highly polarized relationship, and you desire a man who picks up the check because he wants to, or you desire a woman who respects and appreciates this yummy gesture of care, you need to start with your own energetics, attitude and approaches to the paying for a bill and being paid for.

The moment the bill comes is an insightful moment into the person you are courting with and an even more insightful moment to your energetics around money, polarity, generosity and receiving graciously.