From Flirty to Dirty Texting

You know what kind of foreplay is super hot, builds up dopamine and anticipation and lets you explore another side of your sexuality with your partner?

Spicy texting. 

Sexting intermittent with an occasional naughty photo (if that’s your thing) or even a spicy GIF that so eloquently says what you’re feeling can be a lot of fun and even help you articulate things you desire but maybe have some initial nerves around sharing. 

The Art of the Right Language

Usually the biggest caveat to dirty texting is in the language itself, some words might feel icky for you while other ones really do it. For example, the word “pussy” might feel cringy while the word “yoni” turns you on…or vice versa. Figure out the language that awakens you and your lover, talk about it and then go to town with everything you want to say and do to each other. 

If You’re New to the Art of Sexting

If this is totally new for you and you’re not sure where to start I would recommend easing your toes into it with something like this.. 

“Hey baby, I can’t stop thinking of the way you were biting my neck the the other night” 

Pick from a lived experience that you really enjoyed and let your partner know you’re thinking about that said yummy moment. 

This approach feels less vulnerable if you are the one initiating and puts out feelers for your partners current receptivity to it.

Getting a Little Spicier 

If you’re more comfortable with  the sexting game and you are your lover usually have good back and forth rapport with this, dive right in there with something like .. 

“Baby, I want you to do (insert precisely what you want them to do) to me later, I have been so pent up all day thinking about it”

Or… to go straight in there boldly 

“I can’t stop thinking of your cock and everything I want to do to it” 

Direct and to the point. Use words to describe what you diiiiiiiied for, what you want your partner to do to you later and what you want to do to them.

Don’t be afraid to get low-key nasty and explicit! It can feel weird sometimes being so articulate with what you want your lover to do to you or what you want to do to them but trust me it will hit on the other end. 

GIFs

GIFs have given us a whole world of ways to communicate our naughty desires or test out getting into a naughty conversation with your lover before you really dive into it. Find your favourite GIFs that feel sexy or communicate your desire, hunger or might peak your lovers attention. Creative, fun, and such an easy way to open up a flirty conversation into a dirty one. 

The Wonderful World of Nudes 

This one favours the bold and you might even find taking a sexy photo of yourself actually does a lot to turn you on and sharing it to your partner makes you feel desired and wanted. 

Now, if you want to explore this but have reservations about your privacy, leave your face out of it to preserve your anonymity. 

And playyy!! Let this be something you do for you, play with angles, twists, different types of clothes, blankets or complete nudes. 

And then when you’re ready, send them off to a trusted lover. 

As with everything, have fun, go at the pace you feel comfortable with while gradually build up your confidence and expand your boundaries into your desires. Sexting can be such a fun way to connect with your lover, do it safely and allow play, humour and some of your most honest feelings come up through it, it’ll spice your day right up until you’re in bed with your lover.